Dating a Woman Who Has Lots of Male Friends

Dating a woman who has her own friends is great. To make a relationship work, it requires that the two of you have your own time that you spend either alone, or with other people. When your woman has friends, you don’t have to worry about her constantly wanting to cling to you. Most of the time, her friends will provide her with enough of a distraction to let the two of you enjoy your time away from each other. Most men are fine with their ladies having a girls’ night out. But many of us are less than thrilled when we discover that our lady is spending her “me time” with a bunch of guys.

Meet Her Buddies (And See If They’re Up to Something)

Meeting Her Friends Is The First Step
Meeting Her Friends Is The First Step
Believe it or not, some men can be just friends with women, and have no desire to date or have sex with them. Of course, most of the time this is pretty rare, so deciding to meet your lady’s male friends is always a good idea. Don’t make it seem like you want to meet them because you don’t trust them. If you do this, she will turn things around to make it seem like you don’t trust her. Even if you don’t trust her, it’s probably best if you don’t make her aware of it.

Find out what her pals are into, and host something at your place that you can invite them to. Meeting all of her male in a group setting makes it feel less like an interrogation, and more like hangout. Make sure to actually talk to her guy friends and try to gauge whether or not some (or all) of them will be a problem. Be on the lookout for alpha males. They’re almost always waiting for the perfect opportunity to try to hook up with someone else’s woman. Don’t forget to check for wandering eyes. Most of us aren’t as discreet as we think we are when it comes to checking women out. If you see someone’s eyes lingering on your lady for too long, it could be a sign that he wants to be more than just friends with her.

Admit When You Are Uncomfortable

Tell Her You Have A Problem With Her Male Friends
Tell Her You Have A Problem With Her Male Friends
Explain to her how you are feeling, you feel concerned about their intentions, it’s best to speak up about it. Try to avoid telling her that you don’t want her hanging out with them. It will only cause arguments and conflict in the relationship. Instead, take her out on a date, and tell her why you feel uncomfortable with her having certain male friends. Be willing to compromise. Tell her that some of her male friends make you uncomfortable, and then explain why. Always start by telling her that you trust her. As hard as it may be, acknowledge that you are insecure (or pretend to be).  In other words, make her feel guilty for making you uncomfortable.

When a woman feels like you are being sincere, and that you trust her by sharing your feelings with her, she will be much more willing to compromise with you. She will also be more willing to take your feelings into consideration. If you’ve done a good job of stating why you’re uncomfortable with some of her guy friends, she will eventually start to feel the same way about them.

Accepting the fact that your lady has male friends can be difficult, but if you take the time to meet them, you can get rid of most of the apprehension you have about them. If she refuses to let you meet her male friends, she might be hiding something.   

How to Tell If Your Sexual Appetite Is Healthy or an Addiction

The question is simple and to the point. Do you feel like you are treading a thin line between being a voracious young person or someone with a healthy need for sex versus someone who needs help to curb their desires and uncontrollable urges? The differences might be obvious to you or they may be part of a very blurred line that you don’t know which side you belong on. Go through the list and see for yourself. Are you a healthy person or a secret sex addict?

Do You Constantly Go Out of Your Way for Sex?

How Is Your Sexual Appetite?
How Is Your Sexual Appetite?
Having sex occasionally is normal. In fact, having sex a lot can be normal within reason. Even if you’re having scheduled days for sex, be you single or in a relationship, then you’re on the good side of the line. The time when you cross over is when you are doing one thing and decide suddenly that you need sex now. You’re coming home from work and you feel compelled to just go to a bar, pick someone up, and then get some in the car. If this happens often then watch out.

Does Your Need for Sex Hinder Your Day to Day Life?

One sure fire way to tell if you’re actually a sex addict is to examine how you react to a sexual stimulus in the middle of work, school, or errands. People can’t help but get aroused sometimes and that can include times when they’re just doing everyday things. If this arousal is persistent and something that you feel the urge to satisfy immediately on a regular basis then you might be treading on some very murky water. Your sex life shouldn’t interfere with your ability to do day-to-day tasks.

Do You Find Yourself Wanting to Cheat or Go Wild?

Going Wild...
Going Wild…
If you’re in a committed, monogamous relationship then you have some standards to uphold. One of those standards is that your partner is the only person you’ll be sleeping with. If your relationship is fine and healthy but you still feel a compulsion to go completely crazy and cheat on your partner often then you might need to examine how healthy your sexual frequency really is. Some people just aren’t the kind who can settle down. This is something completely different than a sex addict but there might be a similar style of sexual promiscuity.

How Often do You Actually Want to Have Sex?

It’s normal for some people to have high sex drives and be extremely sexual quite often. During puberty and your young adult years, for example, there’s a tendency for people to be quite hormonal and hot and bothered. If you’re someone, however, that feels the urge and need to have sex on a daily basis and does not ever get tired of sex or the rush derived from it then it’s possible you’re addicted. Remember that sex addiction is just like drug addiction. You have to have it all the time and you’ll look for it any time of the day, over and over again.

Do You Think You Could Listen to “No” if You Needed To?

She Said NO!... Now What?
She Said NO!… Now What?
Sometimes someone who is addicted to sex isn’t fully cognitive or aware of what they’re doing. They see the opportunity to have sex and they can’t shut it off. Because of this they may not be able to listen when their partner is saying that they don’t want to have sex anymore. This is rape, plain and simple. If you have been in a situation where this might be applicable then there is definitely something amiss. When you are risking endangering others with your addiction, it’s time to get help.