Dating a Woman Who Has Lots of Male Friends

Dating a woman who has her own friends is great. To make a relationship work, it requires that the two of you have your own time that you spend either alone, or with other people. When your woman has friends, you don’t have to worry about her constantly wanting to cling to you. Most of the time, her friends will provide her with enough of a distraction to let the two of you enjoy your time away from each other. Most men are fine with their ladies having a girls’ night out. But many of us are less than thrilled when we discover that our lady is spending her “me time” with a bunch of guys.

Meet Her Buddies (And See If They’re Up to Something)

Meeting Her Friends Is The First Step
Meeting Her Friends Is The First Step
Believe it or not, some men can be just friends with women, and have no desire to date or have sex with them. Of course, most of the time this is pretty rare, so deciding to meet your lady’s male friends is always a good idea. Don’t make it seem like you want to meet them because you don’t trust them. If you do this, she will turn things around to make it seem like you don’t trust her. Even if you don’t trust her, it’s probably best if you don’t make her aware of it.

Find out what her pals are into, and host something at your place that you can invite them to. Meeting all of her male in a group setting makes it feel less like an interrogation, and more like hangout. Make sure to actually talk to her guy friends and try to gauge whether or not some (or all) of them will be a problem. Be on the lookout for alpha males. They’re almost always waiting for the perfect opportunity to try to hook up with someone else’s woman. Don’t forget to check for wandering eyes. Most of us aren’t as discreet as we think we are when it comes to checking women out. If you see someone’s eyes lingering on your lady for too long, it could be a sign that he wants to be more than just friends with her.

Admit When You Are Uncomfortable

Tell Her You Have A Problem With Her Male Friends
Tell Her You Have A Problem With Her Male Friends
Explain to her how you are feeling, you feel concerned about their intentions, it’s best to speak up about it. Try to avoid telling her that you don’t want her hanging out with them. It will only cause arguments and conflict in the relationship. Instead, take her out on a date, and tell her why you feel uncomfortable with her having certain male friends. Be willing to compromise. Tell her that some of her male friends make you uncomfortable, and then explain why. Always start by telling her that you trust her. As hard as it may be, acknowledge that you are insecure (or pretend to be).  In other words, make her feel guilty for making you uncomfortable.

When a woman feels like you are being sincere, and that you trust her by sharing your feelings with her, she will be much more willing to compromise with you. She will also be more willing to take your feelings into consideration. If you’ve done a good job of stating why you’re uncomfortable with some of her guy friends, she will eventually start to feel the same way about them.

Accepting the fact that your lady has male friends can be difficult, but if you take the time to meet them, you can get rid of most of the apprehension you have about them. If she refuses to let you meet her male friends, she might be hiding something.   

Written By Ruth Russel